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Need Help With What Oil to Use For Anger?

by Jim
(Manchester, UK)

I have a 13 year old daughter who has behavioural issues. She is very negative, cannot make friends as she is supicious that the fellow students are talking about her. She is very shy on the outside, unable to communicate socially, very angry and has tantrums.

She has home work issues because she seeks assurances all the time about her work and very obsessive . She will check and check her work over and over again.

She as weak memory therfore is unable to grasp fully what she as studied. She cannot communicate without been angry if she disagrees with us.

Thank you for your question, Jim.

Firstly, by asking your question you show how much you care for your daughter and want things to get better. I am pleased that you are considering essential oils as an option to assist with your daughter's issues.

You may want to consult a doctor first, just to make sure there are no physical causes for the change in behaviour. How long has her behaviour been like this? Do some of the behaviours you describe, such as her obsessive behaviours been present for a long time or is this a new behaviour? A doctor is the best person to help you with these questions.

There are quite a lot of issues going on for your daughter and she may also benefit from professional counselling. Most schools have a school counsellor and that is a good place to start.

As for essential oil support I would be getting a diffuser for a subtle introduction to some of the oils.

There are many oils that can be used for anger. If you are interested in any books about essential oils and emotions, I recommend Carolyn Mein’s book “ Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils” and also Valerie Worwood’s book “The Fragrant Mind.” You can get them at my aromatherapy store.

To calm down anger I would diffuse lavender, vetiver, bergamot and patchouli, starting with fifteen minutes a day.

Oils that are suitable for obsessional behaviour are sandalwood, vetiver, cedarwood, clary sage, orange and lemon.

If it was my daughter, and she was open to the idea I would consider an Egyptian Emotional Clearing Technique. If you do not have a practitioner nearby you can get the kit to use at home. More details at the above link.

Of course I would ALWAYS use therapeutic grade essential oils.

If an oil doesn’t work there is a good chance it is adulterated or cut. Burning them actually destroys the chemical constituents. So always use a diffuser. You can get a diffuser and therapeutic grade essential oils from my aromatherapy store.

I would love to hear about your experience with the oils. I wish you and your family all the very best.

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Jul 19, 2009
re: your child
by: Anonymous

I use mandarin, orange, ylang ylang, lavender, bergamot, and clary sage...I diffuse it through the air depending upon the "situation of moods" in the house. Good Luck to you.

***Edited by Admin. Please do not attempt to diagnose. Please consult a qualified health care professional for diagnosis. Thank you for your aromatherapy suggestions.

May 02, 2009
More information about Cananga odorata (Ylang Ylang) for Anger
by: Admin - Jen

Hi Lynn
Thanks for your comment. Cananga odorata is also known as Ylang Ylang. Yes, you are right it could possibly ease the feelings of anger, anxiety, shock, panic and fear.

Ylang Ylang helps to regulate the adrenaline flow and relaxes the nervous system so it is also useful for excitable conditions.

I find Ylang Ylang is best used in relation to all matters of the heart (emotional and physical). It is a beautifully feminine oil and I love putting a drop on my heart chakra (middle of the chest). It brings me joy!

Of course I only use therapeutic grade essential oils directly on my skin. Experimenting with this oil along with the other oils I have suggested is something you may like to try.

Best Wishes
Jen - Essential Oil Goddess

May 02, 2009
Anger oil
by: Lynn

The ultimate anger oil is Canaga odorata.

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